“You’re Lovable to Me” Forever

Sends a reassuring message to children that their parents will love them unconditionally. Adopted children benefit from frequent reassurance that they are fully accepted into the family, that their belonging exists independent of their measuring up or behaving in a certain way. The story does this well. It's gentle illustrations exude a sweet nurturing feel. Moreover, the behaviors and emotions that the story mentions cover a broad spectrum. Continue reading →

Ribbit: An invitation to Friendship

In "Ribbit" readers meet a pig with personality and an interest in making friends in unusual places. At dawn one morning Pig announces her presence to a community of startled frogs. Suspicious and unwelcoming, the frogs demand that pig explain herself...There are many things to appreciate in this story. First, it easily lends itself to discussions that invite children to wonder about Pig's motives, to consider why the frogs are so overly cautious and inhospitable. Second, parallels between a child's own experience either as the "new " arrival or as being on the flip side of the equation as "gatekeepers" of an established group. Continue reading →

One Family

One Family by George Shannon and Blanca Gomez presents a fascinating introduction into counting with a twist. The reader meets many types of family; each is one example of one kind of family. We discover that a family can include... Continue reading →

A Taste of Asia: Four Books That Expand Children’s Multiculturalism

AQ Lens: Beyond the obvious benefits of putting children in touch with their cultural roots, by their very existence these books send a message that these traditions are worth noting, following and showcasing. It is an easy step to carrying the same sense of value to a child's roots. Coming from another culture makes one "different." But it isn't something to hide; it is something to share and honor. Readers will notice the effort and determination which the main characters demonstrate. Skills and capabilities grow out of hard work. This is a great message for them to absorb! These books also demonstrate the universality of common daily activities: dressing, enjoying time with grandparents, preparing meals, celebrating holidays. As the reader follows the main characters through the narrative, children can note the value of self reliance, connection to family and of being part of a history--personal, familial as well as cultural. Children will enjoy learning about other cultures, whether it is part of their history or not. By expanding our children's exposure to a variety of cultures and traditions, we better prepare them for life in this increasingly interconnected world. It is important for us to prepare them for this global citizenship. Continue reading →

Bedtime Rituals That Soothe

touches upon important themes: family, community, gratitude, hunger, etc. No particular faith is indicated so this lovely book can be treasured by Christian, Jews, Muslims, etc....Adoptees have direct experience with loss, grief and sadness, thus they can easily identify with the spirit of this story. The boy's example of a hopeful heart models one strategy that a child can use as they handle the difficulties of their own lives. The boy's prayer validates his observations of the hard stuff of life. He doesn't turn a blind eye or minimize what he knows to be true. Adoptees can use this story line as a model for sharing his own "hard stuff" with the expectation that his family can listen, validate and support him. Continue reading →

Making Dreams Come True

Michaela's story is one of resilience in the face of adversity and dogged persistence of an important goal. Inspired by her dream, she allowed nothing to prevent her from realizing her heart's desire. This book clearly shows that her success did not come easily. It resulted from her hard work augmented by collaborative resources and a team of people who supported Michaela. Her story exemplifies another important adoptee lesson in trust: to rely on others, to depend on their support and to believe that they will be there when needed. Many adoptees have an abiding fear of rejection. This can tempt them into hiding their true wishes and/or replacing their own dreams with the wishes of others. Michaela's story provides an inspiring model for following one's own path. It also shows that success is usually a team effort. Many people supported Michaela along the way. She had to agree to let them in, to expose her innermost dream and be vulnerable to their response. Continue reading →

Sibling Relationships, Learning to Get Along

Helping our children navigate the changing seas of sibling relationships is one of many important tasks faced by parents. All children experience feelings of inadequacy, rivalry and anger. For adoptees, this emotion is poignant and frightening. The flip side of "not good enough" is an intense need for attention. Readers will identify with Lily's frustration. They can benefit from the strategies modeled in the book. The lush, pastel watercolor illustrations evoke a soft contemplative mood. The presence of Asian characters add a welcome note of diversity. Continue reading →

Embracing Our “Differentness”

Adoptees often tell us that they struggle to fit in, so it is easy to see how this simple story can help them get in touch with those feelings. The spare text and delightful, spare illustrations combine to create a simple but powerful metaphor. All of us benefit from the reminder that our uniqueness deserves to be treasured and appreciated. Continue reading →

Summertime and the Living Is … Easy?

Summer offers a wonderful opportunity to build positive memories of time having fun together. Fun is FUN-damental to building strong family ties. It’s a Firefly Night by Diane Ochiltree captures one delightful moment. The reader senses that this is a treasured ritual that the child shares with her daddy an something she will treasure down the years of her life. Betsy Snyder’s luminous art brings the rhyming/counting text to life. Children can make a game of searching for and tracking the number of bugs, flowers, etc. And have fun in the process! Continue reading →
« Older posts
Newer posts »