Childhood Milestones Celebrated with a Cultural Twist

universal-childhood-milestones-celebrated-with-a-cultural-twist-tooth-on-the-roof-border-51tn8sa6pjl-_sy485_bo1204203200_In today’s strife-ridden global world, it is reassuring to focus on the commonalities that unite us instead of the differences that divide us. Cultures around the world celebrate universal childhood milestones.  Throw Your Tooth on the Roof: Tooth Traditions from around the World by Selby B. Beeler is a fun retrospective of the varied ways cultural traditions that celebrate children losing their baby teeth. Kids will get a tickle reading about the variety of celebrations. Some will feel similar, some quite unusual and some will strike their funny bones.

In the USA we believe the tooth fairy exchanges teeth for cash. In other cultures this job falls to birds, calves, mice, rats (Yikes!?!) and many more take the tooth and replace it with something valuable. Sometimes the tooth is planted, gold-plated, steeped in milk or simply tossed on the roof. Kids will learn how a specific practice is embraced within  different cultures. While it may seem silly to us, it’s folkloric  tradition in each respective culture–unique, mythical and charming. None is sillier than the rest. Taken as a totality, all the traditions are slightly goofy yet still fun to embrace.

magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300Adoption-attuned Lens This story offers a chance to talk about differences between families as something interesting not as something to denigrate. Every family and culture, like the patches in a piecework quilt, contribute an integral element that is part of the overall beauty and success of the whole.

at-the-same-moment-around-teh-world-full-borderAt the Same Moment Around the World by Clotilde Perrin takes the reader on a world-wide journey. Under a brilliant cloak of dawn-painted clouds, the book begins at 6:00 a.m in Dakkar, Senegal. Each subsequent  page begins with the same refrain: At the same moment in…

Encourage young readers to repeat the refrain, to scrutinize the illustrations for the details identified in the text. The book presents diversity of characters, locations and activities. The end flap includes a pull-out map of the world.

Help kids to understand that the events occur simultaneously even though the “hour” is different (because of time zone changes.) This story captures this complex concept of time in dreamy, detailed illustrations which carry the reader through twenty-four separate vignettes.

Children can see how similar the human story is regardless of where one lives in the world. Understanding this universality encourages tolerance and respect, something which benefits us all.

magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300Adoption-attuned Lens This story offers a window onto the diverse ways people around the globe live. At the same time, it reinforces our commonalities. This is also true for families. Although our families came together  through adoption instead of by birth, we have much in common with all families regardless of the way we formed. This book can open conversations about what kinds of things a child’s birth and adoptive  families might be doing simultaneously. Some will be similar, some will not.

 

 

Faith Ringgold’s Books: Beauty and Historical Importance

Faith Ringgold collageFaith Ringgold has written and illustrated many important books. Some have won the Coretta Scott King award for illustration and one was named a Caldecott Honor book. They tackle a variety of important historical and cultural themes. Hers is a powerful and courageous voice.

Her website reports that she has won “more than 75 awards including 22 Honorary Doctor of Fine Arts Degrees. 

 

Tar BeachHer stunning work is unique and distinctive, full of brilliant color. Many contain quilt-like motifs which underscore the sense of diverse fragments coming together to create something of beauty and value that exceeds the individual elements.

Several of Faith Ringgold’s books explore important themes and events from African-American history. They contribute a vital window into these events and are important to all readers.

I first read Tar Beach, with my own children decades ago. Captivated by the art, they enjoyed the story and absorbed an appreciation for the world which it depicted and was so unlike their own. The inspired text invites children to dream and to fly into the world of dreams where anything is possible. It also shows that wealth derives not only in terms of money or things.

magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300Adoption-attuned Lens This story offers a  chance to discuss what a family values as important and valuable. Although not wealthy in terms of material goods, the Cassie and Be Be have the most important asset: a family who loves them. This can be used to jumpstart an age-appropriate conversation about why an adoption plan was made for a child.

Dinner at Aunt Connie's HouseDinner at Aunt Connie’s House, shows an annual family gathering where Aunt Connie reveals her most recent paintings. While exploring their aunt’s large home, two children happen upon the trove of paintings. Each depicts a famous African-American figure. The children discover that the paintings can speak to them. Each painting reveals a personal story of courage and historic barrier breaking.

As a secondary theme, readers learn that Aunt Connie’s red-haired, green-eyed son was adopted. Connie challenges his “right” to feel pride in these African-American figures. This can easily lead to conversations that remind us that all Americans should be proud of the achievements of the people in the paintings. Fundamentally, regardless of their specific ethnicity or race, the history of each and every American contributes a “patch” to the “quilt” that is America’s story. This book can also open conversations about race and racism.

magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300Adoption-attuned Lens Since this story focuses on Aunt Connie’s art it offers a chance to discuss family talents. Some may trend through generations and be prized. This can put pressure on adopted children to “take on” this talent in preference to following their own natural abilities. Families can affirm that every family member’s unique talents are valuable.

Aunt Harriet's Underground RailroadIn  Aunt Harriet’s Underground Railroad in the SkyCassie (a child featured in several of Faith Ringgold’s books,) travels the Underground Railroad and experiences the trials, terrors and privations of that long, dangerous route to freedom. In another repeating theme of Ringgold’s books, Cassie’s brother Be Be travels a mythical reincarnation of the Underground Railroad Freedom Train.

Separated from each other,  each child chooses the quest for freedom over security and remaining enslaved. The children eventually reunite. Each now possesses a realization that “Freedom is more important than just staying together.”

magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300Adoption-attuned Lens Since this story touches on some difficult parts of American history it lends itself to discussions about the events and politics of all countries. Thus, it can open a conversation about the conditions in an international adoptee’s birth land some of which may have influenced why a child was adopted.

 

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One of Ringgold’s skills is her ability to place the reader in the heart of the historical experience. In  If a Bus Could Talk

Faith Ringgold places young Marcie on a metaphorical bus with Rosa Parks and other historical figures. Each shares their stories in a way that feels present and real. Readers will learn about some of the uglier parts of history: discrimination, slavery, segregation, the role of the Ku Klux Klan, etc.

Ringgold achieves this in a way that feels authentic, touches the reader and is still appropriate for children. This is important American history which we must not sanitize or sweep under the rug. Children need this information  so they can learn the lessons of history. In the absence of this education, we will be doomed to repeat the mistakes and cruelties of the past.

magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300Adoption-attuned Lens Standing up for one’s values is not easy but this book reminds us of the important of doing so. It can have particular adoption-related resonance because adoptees must learn how to handle the inevitable onslaught of curious as well as nosy, intrusive and insulting questions regarding their adoptions.

Our theme for this month’s Diverse Children’s Books linkups is Favorite Diverse Author or Illustrator. Who is your must-read author or must-see illustrator? (The theme is only a suggestion. Diverse posts on alternate topics are always welcome.)

What Is #DiverseKidLit?


Diverse Children’s Books is a book-sharing meme designed to promote the reading and writing of children’s books that feature diverse characters. This community embraces all kinds of diversity including (and certainly not limited to) diverse, inclusive, multicultural, and global books for children of all backgrounds.

We encourage everyone who shares to support this blogging community by visiting and leaving comments for at least three others. Please also consider following the hosts on at least one of their social media outlets. Spread the word using #diversekidlit and/or adding our button to your site and your diverse posts.

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We hope this community will grow into a great resource for parents, teachers, librarians, publishers, and authors! Our next linkup will be Saturday, October 15th and on the first and third Saturdays of every month.

Most Clicked Post from Last Time

Our most-clicked post from the previous #diversekidlit linkup features super-talented author-illustrated Kadir Nelson. Miss T’s Book Room shares a brief biography of Nelson and his long-list of awards and amazing picture books. If you are not yet familiar with his work, you are in for a treat!

My #DiverseKitLit Shout-Out

Mark your calendars for Multicultural Children’s Book Day, Jan. 27, 2017! Multicultural Children’s Book Day is an all-day (really, more like all-month) celebration of diverse books. Opportunities are currently available for teachers and bloggers to receive a free diverse book to review as part of the event. Interested parents can also win books through various giveaways. This is another great way to bring attention to diverse books, and I hope you’ll consider joining in!

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Trees, Roots and Branches Inspire Metaphors

Trees,-roots,-branches-visual-metaphor-peace-tree-from-hiroshima-51jcrygzvml-_sx386_bo1204203200_The Peace Tree from Hiroshima by Sandra Moore. Illustrated by Kazumi Wilds delivers a poignant and inspiring story based on true events. The Yamaki family of Japan donated a three-hundred-year-old bonsai (miniature) tree to the United States in honor of our Bicentennial. Their family had cared for this tree for generations. It had survived the atomic bomb that devastated Hiroshima. The gift serves as a testimony to peace and reconciliation.

Told from the tree’s point of view, the story  creates a sense of connection and admiration for the sturdy tree which survived such devastation. [bctt tweet=”The Yamaki’s gift embodies the importance of enemies resolving differences so that peace can reign.” username=”GayleHSwift”] In today’s world rife with terrorism and angry rhetoric, this message is most welcome.

It also offers a chance to talk about world history and how seemingly irreconcilable differences have been resolved between countries or faith communities, ethnic groups, and political parties, etc. This helps place the conflicts of childhood in some perspective to show youngsters, that they too, can pursue peace in preference to fighting or bullying.

The book also includes a glossary and many facts about bonsai trees. The bonsai in the story is over three feet tall. The fact that it has lives for several centuries will amaze kids.

magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300Adoption-attuned Lens This story offers a  parallel for adoption. Just as the Miyaki family lovingly nurtured the bonsai for over three hundred years, they placed it into the care of the United States . (While not equivalent to adoption and the significant losses in which adoption originates, the story does convey how the Miyakis continued to care about and be interested in the bonsai even after it was no longer in their family.)

Fall Is Not EasyTrees-roots-branches-visual-metaphor-fall-is written and illustrated by Marty Kelly follows the life cycle of a tree through the seasons. It offers an unexpected twist: in autumn, the tree changes, but not in “normal” colors or patterns. Fall Is Not Easy  reflects a delightful nod to the free-spirits and creativity of children who delight in coloring outside the lines and in rethinking how things ought to look.

Kelly’s simple graphics and very brief text use visual repetition to engage the reader and express the theme that some changes are effortless while others require lots more effort. Each drawing is fundamentally the same yet clearly depicts a seasonal shift. Come autumn, the tree chooses a decidedly non-conformist style which will delight young readers. Yes, we all change. And, thankfully, we all change in different ways and in our own unique ways.

magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300Adoption-attuned Lens  This story offers an easy segue into conversations about the variety of families. Like the tree in the book which doesn’t exactly look the way we expect, it is still a tree. [bctt tweet=”Love binds adoptive families together. We may look different or be formed differently from other families.” username=”GayleHSwift”]

Trees-roots-branches-visual-metaphor-zora-hurston-chinaberry-tree-51qwbou7cl-_sx427_bo1204203200_Zora Hurston and the Chinaberry Tree

by William Miller and illustrated by Cornelius Van Wright and Ying-Hwa Hu is a picture book about the great African-American writer. Her mother encouraged her to break through the bonds which restricted women. Still a child when her mother died, Zora heeded her advice and became one of the foremost writers of our country.

Her biography serves as a great example for boys and girls. [bctt tweet=”Girls and boys are equally talented, capable and interested in following their dreams.” username=”GayleHSwift”]Both deserve the chance to pursue jobs, play sports and acquire an education. In terms of opportunities for women and people of color, great changes have occurred since Zorah was a girl. Still, much work remains.  Stories like this one help persuade boys and girls that they both benefit when each is able to become their best.

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Adoption-attuned Lens Hurston serves as an example of a woman who broke through barriers. Adoptees may find parallel’s in their own lives as they pursue the talents and aptitudes of their DNA. Many times  kids possess abilities and inclinations that are different from the traditional patterns of their adoptive families. It takes courage and the “en-couragement” of their adoptive families for kids to follow their inner compass even if it breaks the family mold. Families can talk about the blessing that their child’s differences infuse into the family. Like a new spice can enhance the flavor profile of a family recipe.

Trees-roots-branches-visual-metaphor-grand-old-tree-51s-qeq7rl-_sx378_bo1204203200_A Grand Old Tree written and illustrated by Mary Newell DePalma, tells of a tree which grows roots deep into the soil, spreads branches, blooms and fruits and how it offers life-giving shelter, food etc to  animals. Child-like illustrations show the seasonal changes which the tree undergoes.

Its’ seeds spread wide until they sprout into “grandchildren” whose “arms reach high into the sky.” The story concludes by coming full circle as “The grand old tree slowly crumbled [and] became part of the earth.”

This sweet story introduces children to the concept of the circle of life and how each creature or plant has a beginning and an end. Young readers can see themselves in the seedling at the end of the story who, like them, is at the beginning of life.

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Trees often serve as a metaphor for how adoption grafts a new branch to the family tree. This book talks about the roots and the branches as well as the flowers and seeds which the tree produces. This offers a gentle gateway to discuss a child’s roots and his adoption. It could even be used to open conversations about how the seeds scatter to grow in different places. This can lay the ground for future, age-appropriate conversations about biological siblings who are not a part of their adoptive family.

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Coexisting Viewpoints: Equally True, Wildly Divergent

i-wonder-51xa9vh-4ml-_sx258_bo1204203200_I Wonder  by Annika Harris exquisitely illustrated by John Rowe, walks the reader through a dreamy world of beauty and wonder. The story follows a girl and her mother as they wander through the forest. Several things spark the child’s interest. “I wonder…” she says. Mom encourages the girl’s thoughts and resists offering a pat answer. Instead, she encourages her child to sit with uncertainty and use it to spearhead further exploration.

The book also includes a useful Author’s Note page which explains her purpose for writing the book: to encourage children to admit what they do not know, to not be embarrassed by it but rather to be challenged to explore and learn. She challenges parents to do the same! There is value in learning to sit with wonder and in accepting coexisting viewpoints as equally true even if wildly divergent.

Adoption-attuned Lens magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300Life as an adoptive family is partly steeped in wonder about What if What if I’d never been adopted? What if other parents had adopted me? What if I’d never placed my child for adoption? etc…. Betty Jean Lifton author of Lost and Found describes this world of unknowable possibilities as the Ghost Kingdom: the lost babies [adoptees], the [birth], parents who lost them, and the [adoptive] parents who found them. Each member of the triad wrestles with significant factors that may never be completely known or resolved. A book like this helps open discussion on some very complex issues without putting the child on the hot seat. Begin with the simple, concrete concepts presented in the book and then, if the children  are receptive ask some open-ended questions that, although not specifically adoption-related, can be interpreted as connected to adoption. Follow your child’s lead. Eventually, this book will probably spark some important adoption conversations.

they-all-saw-a-cat-41au1iglll-_sy410_bo1204203200_They All Saw A Cat  written and illustrated by Brendan Wenzel delights the eyes as it explores a variety of encounters with a cat. Each two-page spread features a drawing that depicts the cat from a new point of view, for example, “A Child, a dog … a mouse… snake … worm … until it comes full circle with the cat admiring his reflection in the water.. The imaginative illustrations hilariously capture how perception colors and shapes reality. Each is true. Each is diverse. Each is personal.

magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300Adoption-attuned Lens  This story can introduce a conversation about how the same situation can be experienced in drastically different ways. For example, a child, a cook, and a turkey all experience Thanksgiving dinner in wildly different ways. As always, talk about the story on a light-hearted level before moving to deeper conversations. Some logical topics: bullying, immigration, and, of course, adoption.

marta-big-small-51rnntszfgl-_sy498_bo1204203200_Marta! Big & Small written by Jen Arena and illustrated by Angela Dominguez is a bilingual book which explores a similar theme. This time the multiple points of view focus on  the senses: sight, hearing, touch, taste. Compared to a cat, Marta is big. In contrast, an elephant perceives her as tiny! Exuberant illustrations portray the theme well. Spanish words appear in the text and the illustration make it easy for readers to infer the English word. Marta! Big & Small offers a fun romp that will entertain as well as teach.

Adoption-attuned Lens magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300Adoptive families dwell in a Both/And world. The same experience can affect each family member in drastically divergent ways. For example, as parents, we thrilled to welcome our children home. We’d hoped and prayed for this to happen. Our children, however, experience adoption in a more complex way.

multiple-pov-weblinkFor them, adoption, originates with significant loss (their first family.) Even in open adoptions, where children know and interact with birth family, children lost the opportunity for their birth parents to have raised them.

Parents, too, had to move beyond the effort to become pregnant and embrace the commitment to become parents via adoption.

The important point which this book can help families understand is that each person’s respective point of view is real, valid and does not alter the perception of other family members. Again, readers are asked to recognize coexisting viewpoints as equally true even in wildly divergent.

Our theme for today’s Diverse Children’s Books linkup is Favorite Diverse Author or Illustrator. Who is your must-read author or must-see illustrator? (The theme is only a suggestion. Diverse posts on alternate topics are always welcome.)

What Is #DiverseKidLit?


Diverse Children’s Books is a book-sharing meme designed to promote the reading and writing of children’s books that feature diverse characters. This community embraces all kinds of diversity including (and certainly not limited to) diverse, inclusive, multicultural, and global books for children of all backgrounds.

We encourage everyone who shares to support this blogging community by visiting and leaving comments for at least three others. Please also consider following the hosts on at least one of their social media outlets. Spread the word using #diversekidlit and/or adding our button to your site and your diverse posts.

DiverseKidLit

We hope this community will grow into a great resource for parents, teachers, librarians, publishers, and authors! Our next linkup will be Saturday, October 15th and on the first and third Saturdays of every month.

Upcoming Theme

Our theme for the current linkup is Favorite Diverse Author or Illustrator. Themes are a suggestion only; all diverse book posts are welcome. If you’re interested, you can start planning now for our upcoming themes …

  • October 15th linkup: We will continue the Favorite Diverse Author or Illustrator theme.

Most Clicked Post from Last Time

Our most-clicked post from the previous #diversekidlit linkup is KitaabWorld’s Bilingual Picks. This great round-up post includes bilingual favorites in a range of Asian languages, including Hindi, Bengali, Tamil, and Urdu. There are also links to more titles and more languages at the end of the article.

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Real or Fake? Far-out Fibs, Fishy Facts and Phony Photos

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Real or Fake? Far-out Fibs, Fishy Facts and Phony Photos by National Geographic Kids is a fascinating book that helps kids to see through information and identify what is true from what is contrived, faked, tweaked or downright false. With the advent of the Photoshop era and the proliferation of exaggeration on-line, in print and in advertisements, truth competes with persuasive, authentic-sounding lies and fakes. Even adults can be fooled by these stories, “news” reports, photos, and zany factoids and find it difficult to discern the difference between what is real or fake.

[bctt tweet=”It is essential that we help kids develop the ability to see through the trickery and deceit and discern what is real or fake.” username=”GayleHSwift”]

The book uses a fib-o-meter to help display the range of falseness that an item may contain. Some lies are broader and more serious than others. The bottom line is that it still represents an untruth. We all must be alert for the tricks that people use to fool, confuse and manipulate us. Sometimes the deceit is unintentional, sometimes it is for fun. Many times, however, the intention is to control and trick kids (or us) into doing something or believing something we would not otherwise do or believe if we knew the truth.

Adoption-attuned Lens magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300One of the most demeaning questions posed to adoptees and their families centers of the concept of REALDo you know your REAL parents? Do you have any REAL brothers or sisters? In addition to your adopted children, do you have any REAL ones?  Yikes! These questions strike deep. They doubt the validity of our families, cast us as less than biological families and ask us to defend our “inferior” status. At some level, the REAL question causes kids to worry that perhaps they are right.

This book offers the perfect gateway to discussing what makes a family real. As adoptive families, we know that our families and our relationships are all real. The choice is not binary; both adoptive and biological parents and relatives are real. For a more detailed discussion, read this post on GIFT Family Services blog.

Art Creates Beauty & Value in Unexpected Places

Art-Create-Find-Beauty-Value-Unexpected-Places-Hope-picmonkey-collageI enjoy reading children’s books that reveal the power of art and how we are all artists who can find and create beauty and value in unexpected places. We can transform the ordinary, the plainest scraps–of fabric, metal, paper and plastic– even trash into something glorious, inspirational and uplifting.

“Beauty,” they say, “is in the eye of the beholder.” Human beings share an innate desire for beauty, music and creation. More importantly, the creative process can uplift individuals, even entire communities. [bctt tweet=”Art can motivate, transform and unite us as is evidenced in three of these fact-based stories.” username=”GayleHSwift”]

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Magic Trash: A Story of Tyree Guton and His Art, by J H. Shapiro tells the story of an artist raised in poverty  in urban Detroit. Traditional art supplies cost too much, so he cast his eye on found objects which he repainted and reconfigured into “art.” Encouraged by his grandfather, a house painter, he followed his dream to become a painter–of art.

After the 1967 riots, Tyree’s family moved away from Heidelberg Street but Tyree never forgot his roots. After he graduated from art school, he returned to his roots only to find destruction, violence and devastation. Galvanized by a desire to bring beauty, he began transforming the neighborhood one slosh of color, one creation at a time. Initially, Tyree met resistance. eventually he won people over. Cheered by his colorful creations, neighbors began to beautify their community, remove trash and come together to improve their neighborhood. Art sparked a movement of hope, change and improvement!

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Tyree confronted the judgment of kids and adults who thought he was weird, even crazy for aspiring to be an artist. We can explore conversations with adoptees about the ways in which people look at them as odd, crazy and not “real.” This feeling of being “other” is one which many adoptees experience. Opening the conversation can offer a relief valve for this pressure-cooker emotion.

Ada’s Violin: The Story of the Recycled Orchestra of ParaguayArt-Create-Find-Beauty-Value-Unexpected-Places-Hope-adas-violin-6142sav8e-l-_sy498_bo1204203200_  by Susan Hood and illustrated by Sally Wern Comport tells about a town built on a landfill in Paraguay where the people rummage through the fresh trash looking for “treasure.” The valuables they seek are items which can be recycled  for pennies per pound. While the people dreamed of finding items of great value, they never truly expected to find treasure. Young people had little hope for a better life.

Until … until Favio Chavez arrived with three guitars, two violins and a dream. He wanted to teach the residents how to play music. Many children were attracted by the idea. But how could they practice in their trash town where “a violin is worth more than a house?”

Senor Chavez and Senor Gomez turned to the only resources available to them: the trash piles on which they lived. They searched for materials to build instruments on which the children could practice. Using empty paint cans, baking trays and wood scraps, they built instruments which thieves would ignore but which Ada and the other children cherished.

With practice and great effort, they learned how to make music. In the process the children’s orchestra brought hope to the barrio. They practiced. acquired skills and eventually, word of their feat reached the capital. The children were invited to perform. Eventually, they performed all over the world. They had indeed found genuine treasure in the dump. “Buried in the trash was music. And buried in themselves was something to be proud of.”

Adoption-attuned Lens magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300Use this story to discuss how the children overcame extremely difficult circumstances through a combination of hard work and the help of supportive people. But the courage emerged from within themselves. They had to dare to try, dare to believe, dare to fail. In adoption, children may have faced difficulties, trauma, poverty but these limitations need not define them nor destroy their dreams.

Just as the children in this story triumphed over their challenges, so too can adopted children. Especially for kids adopted at older ages, they too must muster great courage to open themselves up, be vulnerable and try to piece together a new family. The road to success is possible but not always easy or smooth.

Maybe Something Beautiful: How Art Transformed a NeighborhoodArt-Create-Find-Beauty-Value-Unexpected-Places-Hope-maybe-beautiful-61oel-5aafl-_sy498_bo1204203200_ by F. Isabel Campoy and Theresa Howell Illustrated by Rafel López is a story similar to Tyree Guton’s. The fictional main character, Mira (whose name translates as “sight”) loves to draw, doodle and paint. She’s thrilled when a muralist arrives in town to spread his magic. Splashes of color brighten the bleak neighborhood. Formerly desolate spaces become beautiful. Mundane items, once painted, are auctioned off. This raises money to improve the neighborhood and provide art scholarships.

[bctt tweet=”Poverty does not crush the urge to create or the desire for beauty and art. Something Beautiful: reflects the truism that a dream possesses a powerful ability to inspire and transform lives. ” username=”GayleHSwift”]Artists have the opportunity to awaken spirits, rekindle hope and stir a sense of community. That is truly something beautiful.

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This book readily sparks a conversation about innate talent and following one’s dreams. Although Mira was only a child, her drawings brought joy and beauty to her family and community. Explore with children the influence they contribute. Help them to see how their presence in the world makes a difference. All people, but especially adoptees, like to know that they “count.” Help your kids see and believe they make a difference.

The Quiltmaker’s GiftArt-Create-Find-Beauty-Value-Unexpected-Places-Hope-quiltmakers-gift-61wxbgmfbjl-_sx448_bo1204203200_ by Jeff Brumbeau delights the eye with exquisite illustrations by Gail de Marcken that detail the intricate patterns of quilt. Against the backdrop of a fairytale-like theme the story unfolds through larger-than-life events.. The main character is a generous old woman who stitches magnificent pieced quilts of such beauty that her reputation stretches throughout the kingdom and reaches the ears of his Royal Greediness. Although he owns ” almost all of the prettiest things in the world,” still he remains miserable.

He covets one of her quilts and insists that she give him one. She refuses because the old woman stitches her creations and donates them only to those in need. She refuses to sell her goods to anyone. Not even the king who was neither poor nor needy. She ignores his demand for one of her glorious quilts. To punish her, he orders his soldiers to chain her in a cave with a bear. Instead of dying as he anticipated, the quiltmaker charms the bear and sews him a pillow.

The story continues with several variations of the king’s threats and how the old woman responds with kindnesses that thwart the king. Until finally, he accepts the quiltmaker’s requirement: to give away his treasure, one item at a time. [bctt tweet=”He soon discovers that the secret of happiness lies in generosity and kindness instead of greed and jealousy. ” username=”GayleHSwift”]The story comes full circle when the happy and appreciative king insists on presenting the quiltmaker with a gift. The lovely message concludes the story persuasively without an overly heavy hand.

Gail de Marcken’s watercolor illustrations create a magical mood, full of detail and charm. Not only is she an artist of exceptional talent, she knows her quilt patterns as well. Her love of the art form comes through her intricate drawings and serve as a wonderful depiction of the quiltmaker’s fantastic talent.

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One natural conversation that can arise from this story is how the diverse pieces combine to create breathtaking beauty. Similarly, families built via adoption include a unique blend of personalities, talents and genetics all of which combine to create a rich tapestry.
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Peace: Mindset and Heartset in Action

Peace Mindset and Heartset in Action

Peace grows out of a considerate mindset, heartset in action steeped in respect. Even small gestures of kindness add up to build relationships and circumstances where everyone feels heard, accepted and valued. Peace is an Offering by Annette LeBox and illustrated by Stephanie Graegin shows readers how children and adults create peace, one action, thought and emotion at a time.

Peace is too important a subject to leave to chance or to dismiss as a purely adult concern. All of us, young and old, have an abiding interest in nurturing peace. We are each safer, happier and healthier when we live in peace. Whether at home, on the schoolyard or the international stage, peace is benefits all of us. It is the blessing we can share, the dream for which we can strive and the worthy goal which can truly achieve.

Delicate watercolor and pencil illustrations set a dreamy mood that reflect wistfulness as well as possibility. The characters include a diverse ethnicities. One two-page spread depicts the NYC skyline. The text says, “… even in the wake of tragedy …  in the rubble of a fallen tower … you might find her [peace] in the hat of a hero…” The story highlights ways in which we can create peace within our families, classrooms, neighborhoods and towns. While it targets children, adults who read this lovely book will be moved by its eloquent and abiding message: peace begins with each of us individually, one moment, one action, one thought at a time.

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On a daily basis news reports on terrorism, terrorists, immigrants, government policies, etc. Children overhear these conversations. with their limited knowledge and life experience, they struggle to make sense of the conversation. They struggle too, to determine their position and safety within families, communities and our country. Often they overhear the negative judgements about immigrants, people of different ethnicities. Many adoptees feel a deep sense of being “other” and will worry that they too will be seen as less-than. Less than welcome. Less than real. Less than American. This book offers a chance for parents to reassure them of their value and permanent place in families.

When families set commit to a mindset and heartset of peace, their actions and choices reflect that commitment and inspire and encourage others.

Peace is an Offering can open conversations about peace–or the absence of it. Parents can elicit children’s thoughts and concerns and then address them. They can also embark on a family project that identifies ways that they can grow peace within their family, schools, etc.

What Will You Do for PeacePeace Mindset and Heartset in Action Do for Peace? written and illustrated by New York City youth ages eleven to nineteen. The text of this book, told in their own words, reflect the actual experiences of young people on the tragic day when terrorists destroyed the Twin Towers.

It captures the confusion, worry, heartache which they experienced as they tried to understand the events of that dreadful day. One child wrote, “It will live like thorns in my heart.” Another wrote, “Was America ever going to be the same? This made me think about peace.” The first half focuses on telling the children’s stories.

The book then shifts to focus on ways they could work to create peace. Each of them understood they could personally make an impact. And, they also realized that this awareness and choice-in-action must extend beyond NYC and the families who lost loved ones. They wanted to challenge all of us to recognize our personal responsibility for growing peace. The logical extension of this idea became the book’s title: What Will You Do for Peace?

Award-winning author-illustrator Faith Ringgold wrote the introduction. The question posed in the title is one which each of us answers every day in the way we think, speak and interact with others. In today’s political climate nationally as well as internationally, we face an immensely important question: What ARE we willing to do for peace? How will each of us individually choose a mindset and heartset in action for for peace? How will we expand that stance when we step into  the wider world?

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The AQ suggestions for the previous book can equally apply to this book. Families can also follow the lead  of What Will You Do for Peace and draw their own book depicting what they as individuals and as a family can/will do for peace. Listen to kids ideas. We can learn so much about what they think, feel and believe, especially when they are talking about something about which they feel strongly.

 

Peace Mindset and Heartset in ActionPeace written and illustrate by Wendy Anderson Halperin delights visually. The delicate and detailed illustrations convey a dreamy quality that suits the premise of the book: peace is an achievable dream. Each of us has a role to play in the creation of peace on a small scale–in families, homes, schools, neighborhoods, etc. These efforts then combine to generate a surge toward peace on a macro scale (state, country, continent, the world.)

Halperin uses text as a drawing element. Each page displays a prominent line of text asserting a peace-connected thought . The balance of the page includes vignettes that expand on the concept. It also includes more sophisticated quotes which further elaborate of the main point.

When reading to youngsters, adults can narrate the main point and skip the more sophisticated material. For more mature audiences narrators can read all the text aloud. The gorgeous illustrations invite discussion and will appeal to all ages. Peace is a lovely book that will plant seeds of thought which can be nurtured into action.

magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300Adoption-attuned Lens Some of the comment details mention ideas which adoptees and their families can interpret through an adoption perspective. For example, this quote from Paul Bennett:  “How do we put ourselves in other people’s shoes and really feel what they feel and then use that to fuel solutions?” Families can explore how they to help people to understand adoption better.

 

Boxes: Springboard Creativity and Connection

Boxes: Springboard to Creativity and connection

Play is an integral element in building family relationships and attachment. Through unstructured creative play, kids tap into inner resources and thoughts; often they unconsciously reveal concerns and beliefs. That’s why I love books that join creativity and play with reading.  I’m particularly fond of books featuring boxes as a theme. Boxes springboard creativity and connection.

A box invites imaginations to soar. We’ve all watched kids opt to play with the box in preference to a gift because kids have an instinctual drive to create and fantasize. Check out this collection of books about boxes. They just may help you have fun together. Or, equally important, they may reveal thoughts and feelings they find difficult to express and share. These books invite conversation and fun. 

In brief and jaunty rhyming text  Boxes: Springboard to Creativity and connectionWhat to Do with a Box by Jane Yolen and illustrated by Chris Sheban declares, “A box is a wonder indeed. The only such magic that you’ll ever need.” The dreamy illustrations serve the theme well. Sheban draws the box with all the labels and markings still visible. Instead of limiting the fantasy element, this design choice reinforces the power of imagination to see beyond what is “real” and connect with what is possible.

Whether launching on a solo journey or sharing the box’s magical potential, an empty box dares us to dream and rocket into a flight of fantasy.

 

Adoption-attuned Lens [bctt tweet=”Adoptees have intimate experience with imagining alternate worlds. ” username=”GayleHSwift”] They wonder what life might have been like had they not been adopted, or if they’d been adopted by a different family. A book like this invites kids and parents to share a box–and the fantasy it triggers. While journeying together, parents may be amazed at the variety of topics kids will explore. Let them take the lead and remain alert for seeds that can open adoption-connected conversations.

Boxes: Springboard to Creativity and connection A Box Can Be Many Things by Dana Meachen Rau and Illustrated by Paige Billin-Frye is part of the Rookie Reader Series which means it uses simple language. (Includes a list or 51 words.) It captures the same exuberant imaginative spirit paired with bright illustrations.

Beginning readers will love the story line and the ability to read it themselves. Not only will this book spark their own flights of fancy, but it will also help build their reading skills. That’s a nice bonus!

 

 

Adoption-attuned Lens This book delivers a similar opportunity for adoptive families as the previous one.  Parents can also suggest that they imagine the box as a time-traveling machine. Imagine the places and people that children might fantasize about visiting. As always, allow children to take the lead on any conversation that touches on “big stuff.” As parents we must ensure that kids know their questions and thoughts are welcomed but we must not force them into having them on our timeline.

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How Dalia Put a Big Yellow Comforter inside a Tiny Blue Box by Linda Heller illustrated by Stacey Dressen McQueen takes a different spin on helping kids to realize the power of a box. This book comes from the PJ Library which “helps families explore the timeless values of Judaism.” 

The story describes the Jewish practice of creating tzedakah boxes. The name means “I’m happy when you’re happy.”  The actual translation is “fairness.”Children are encouraged to construct and decorate a box and then work to fill it with coins (or bills.). The money is then used to fund acts of charity and/or social justice.

Dalia tells her little brother that her tiny box holds a comforter, a butterfly bush and a cream pie. Brother  is little but can easily see the box is too small to hold all these things. He decides Dalia’s box is magic.

Everyone in Dalia’s class makes their own  tzedakah  and works to find ways to earn money to fill them. Once they’ve collected enough, they buy the yellow comforter fabric and then decorate it themselves. The story concludes with the children presenting the blanket to an elderly woman. She is overjoyed by their generosity and artistry and appreciates the flowers the children plant in her garden. Mostly she enjoys their companionship. The children discover the real magic of the box is how it elicits their generosity and empathy.

Adoption-attuned Lens Some kids have a strong natural inclination to kindness and generosity. This book is a great fit for them. And, some children especially those adopted from foster care, may have a profound awareness of the needs and struggles of others (their birth families, perhaps, or neighbors, etc.) These children may enjoy the idea of performing acts of kindness and generosity.

[bctt tweet=”This activity may open some important and sensitive feelings. Stay alert for hints that kids wish to talk about hard things and or need reassurance about difficult histories.” username=”GayleHSwift”]

box metaphorIf this post intrigued you, please also read  Boxing Kids In  another book review blog post on boxes.

Books Help Kids Handle Grief and Loss

Books helps kids handle grief and loss which are inevitable parts of loving others. Books that both validate the depth of a child’s feelings and ease them over life’s rough patches can help children process their powerful emotions. Their world is small, their life experiences limited, and their life skills are just beginning. They experience emotions on a grand scale: elation, terror, delight, disgust, etc. When they perceive an imminent loss, fear crushes logic. By nurturing emotional literacy in our children, we strengthen them for the journey of life.

Cope love loss grief.wherever you are.51rmSaLK1rL._SY498_BO1,204,203,200_Before tackling the difficult stuff, read books which reassure children and build a firm foundation of security. Nancy Tillman, author of the  NY Times Bestselling On the Night You Were Born, created a wonderful book that would be a great choices: Wherever you Are My Love Will Find You

This sweet book reassures children that the love which connects family bridges time and distance. The delicate illustrations suit the gentle, dreamy tone well. Although it never mentions loss or death, it’s  message would indirectly reassure kids who have faced the loss of a relationship, whether through divorce, death, or adoption.

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Adoption-attuned Lens Adoptees have intimate knowledge of deep loss and benefit from frequent affirmations of love. This book can be interpreted as both a reinforcement of the love of their adoptive family and can lead to conversations about their birth parents as well. Adopted children have a permanent connection to and interest in their birth parents.  They may find comfort in imagining their birth parents thinking about them with a love that can bridge difficult circumstances, distance and time.

Even if they came to adoption because of abuse and neglect, they may find solace in imagining some measure of positive connection with their birth parents. As always, validate the children’s feelings; if they can only conjure heart-broken, hurt or angry feelings. Empathize with how sad that must be for them. Eventually, they may be able reach resolution or forgiveness. Allow them to determine if and when that will happen.

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Exuberant illustrations dance across the pages of  The Way I Feel  written and illustrated by Janan Cain. It walks young readers through several moods and captures the intensity of their wildest feelings. Text spirals, bends and wriggles across the page. Color reinforces the feelings being described., for example, brilliant reds and oranges for anger, blues and turquoise for sad,

The story describes kid-familiar emotions : an older sib’s jealousy, frustration, disappointment, etc. With respect and validation, it describes these feelings in ways that help kids discern the difference between one feeling and another. This helps kids develop emotional literacy– the ability to accurately recognize, clearly express how they feel and then decide how to handle them. This is a vital life skill.

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Adoption-attuned Lens I began this review by stating: the proverbial Circle of Life inevitably links love, loss and grief. This is particularly true for adoptees whose lives have been uprooted from one family and grafted into another. Adoption requires kids to wrestle with very complex emotions. Having a broad vocabulary of emotions assists them in parsing out this patchwork quilt of feelings, relationships, losses and gains.

Reading a book about feelings helps convince kids that it is a permitted and welcome topic. Conversations can natural evolve from more general things to adoption-specific thoughts and experiences.

books Help Kids Handle Grief Loss. Ida Always. 51Aufwhsr8L._SY453_BO1,204,203,200_Ida, Always by Caron Levis and illustrated by Charles Santoso is a sweet, two-hankie picture book that depicts how loved one’s imprint in our world and on our hearts remains after they die. It deals with death that acknowledges the sadness and grief and celebrates life and relationships.

A pleasure for eye, ear and heart, Ida, Always  focuses on sound to capture the loving relationship of two polar bears, the bustling zoo where they live and the vibrant city which surrounds them. (“Keys clicked and shoes clacked … buses groan,; trucks rumble …children laugh.” This encapsulates the theme: even when the people and places we love are out of sight, the sounds that surround us hold the audio track of precious memories.

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Adoption-attuned Lens Adoptees may find solace in a book like this because it invites them to intentionally search for and preserve good memories about relationships they have lost. Even when they lack actual memories, parents can help them imagine moments that his birth parents “might” have shared with them. Even kids with trauma histories are viscerally connected to their birth parents. They might benefit from finding some positive recollections, (Not to cancel out or invalidate any trauma or the reality of hurtful histories but as the first step to finding a way to heal any damage.)


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The multi-award-winning book Pancakes with Papa by Dena Albergo Jason and illustrated by Rainer M. Osinger directly addresses a child’s loss of a grandparent. Johnny’s grandparents live with his family. They spend time together and have shared many memory-making moments. So, when his beloved Papa dies, his death leaves a large hole in Johnny’s life. His Nana brings Johnny around the house. She helps Johnny identify smells, sounds and memories of their time together. He learns to use these memories to trigger warm feelings that help ease his grief.

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Adoption-attuned Lens While everyone needs help coping with loss and grief, adoptees have a heavier load to shoulder than most kids their age. Whether they were adopted as infants or older, children may benefit from finding ways to see, hear, and smell the connection of lost relationships. Especially for adoptees with little information in their files, the exercise may rely more on supposition than fact. nonetheless, kids may find comfort in remembering or imagining magical, loving moments with people from their pre-adoptive lives.

Easy as ABC Format Eases Learning

easy as ABCIntroducing new information in alphabetical order allows kids to intuitively use this familiar sequence to help them store and retrieve data. It’s a built-in, subconscious organizational system which gives rise to our cultural expression, “easy as ABC.” Whether helping children learn how to care for the earth, explore the variety of our planet’s wildlife, pick up another language, or wrestle with the complexities of adoption, an ABC format eases new learning. This post will review four alphabet books. While they touch on very different topics, each presents information in alphabetical order.

 easy as ABC Compost Stew.Compost Stew: An A to Z Recipe for the Earth by Mary Mckenna Siddals and illustrated by Ashley Wolff uses both the ABC format and rhyming which makes the text fun to hear and repeat. Over and over. And over again! The subject matter has natural appeal to kids, who, after all love all things squishy, squirmy and squelchy.

Compost Stew carries a vital environmental message and suggests an enjoyable family project. It will open conversations about why recycling is important, what is recyclable and what is not. This will also help raise environmentally aware consumers. (It just might entice some adults to join the recycling movement.) The fabulous collage illustrations serve as a reinforcing metaphor for a successful compost stew, variety and cooperation. And illustrates how the finished product blends the ingredients into a new and better result.

Compost Stew also borrows from the familiar meme of Stone Soup and highlights the benefits of working together to pool resources and efforts. The formula for success is as easy as ABC: cooperation + many ingredients + success.

magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300Adoption-attuned Lens: Probably the most obvious segue to an adoption-attuned question is to focus on how our families are enriched by the differences (talents, quirks, cultural traditions, etc,) which our children contribute to the family. This book really hammers home–in a good way–the concept of how we vastly enhance things when we blend efforts and diverse elements.

easy as ABC.Ah-Choo.51AYA4D7PYL._SY424_BO1,204,203,200_Ah-Choo by Lana Wayne Koehler and Gloria G. Adams with illustrations by Ken Min is a raucously entertaining book with several themes. A boy’s yearning for a pet is impeded by his sister’s hyper-sensitive allergy. Brother patiently seeks the perfect pet for their family. Various animals arrive–in alphabetical order. Readers meet some rather exotic beasties. Alas, much to brother’s disappointment, each creature generates a loud ah-choo from Sister.

Hilarious illustrations capture the chaos and light-hearted tone of the book which concludes with a happy ending. They finally discover a pet with “no feathers, fur or hair..” Read the book to find out what it is.

magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300Adoption-attuned Lens: In addition to the jubilant tone created with the rhyming text, this book makes it easy to talk about how the family worked  to find a way to incorporate sister’s needs. The search brings the siblings together. Families support one another in this same way. A subtle message of caring leaps from the story; brother doesn’t whine or get angry. He gets creative and everyone benefits in the long run.

.easy as ABC.Olinguito.51gE+BF6sjL._SY498_BO1,204,203,200_Olinguito, from A to Z! uses a more typical ABC format where the featured letter appears in a graphic element of the page spread. The story follows a zoologist as he treks through “a cloud forest….high, high up in the Andes”  in search of the “elusive olinguito” (a species of raccoon only discovered in 2003!) Along the way, he observes a delightful array of exotic plant and animal life.

The back matter includes additional information about the discovery of this new species and the thrill it brought to the scientific community.  The illustrator’s commentary describes the process used to create the moody and accurate pictures. He concludes with these words, “I came back from my trip amazed at the interconnectedness among all life forms in the cloud forest. Today I have a deep respect for what these rich places mean to humans and the earth.”

With all that has been in the headlines lately, this message of interdependence and mutual respect is timely. As the title suggests, the text appears in both Spanish and English and is in alphabetical order according to the Spanish word, not the English translation.

magnifying-lens-AQ.2-161x300Adoption-attuned Lens: It would be easy to use this book to open conversations about how, like the animals of the cloud forest, families care about and depend on each member. What endangers one, endangers all. While the needs of each will differ, all family members must have their needs met.

easy as ABC.Award-winning Adoption alphabet book. ABC, Adoption & Me

Families have evolved to include a variety of parent child combinations. Through friends and classmates, children  come in contact with families that look different from their own. Sometimes this can confuse or worry them. Kids need information to help them understand whether bio, adoptive, foster or step families–they are more alike than they are different. It’s as easy as ABC: all families are “real.” The unifying factor is that they love and care for one another.

Almost every classroom in America includes some adopted children so this is a topic that interests many children. ABC, Adoption & Me: A Multicultural Picture Book by Gayle H. Swift with Casey A. Swift and illustrated by Paul Griffin explores adoption in a gentle, respectful way. It relies on the familiar scaffold of alphabetical order to structure the book.

At first glance, it seems a basic picture book, yet the concepts are actually significant ones for all adoptive families to explore. By using a cartoon-like illustrations, these ideas can be explored on a light and simple level, or on a nuanced, multi-layered one.

For example, “B is for bellybutton.” All kids have belly button. This universal commonality points out how we are all alike. It also opens the door  to a deeper conversation with older children about  how a belly button connects a baby to its mother before the baby is born. When appropriate,  parents use this page to spark a conversation about birth mothers and fathers.

ABC, Adoption & Me has won numerous awards and helps explain a complex topic to children whether they are adopted or not. It serves adoptive families particularly well and includes a guide to help parents and teachers.